This is just a joke!
Maybe this is just a joke. But have you ever thought of the motto behind? Have you ever thought about what these jokes are actually indicative of?
We take them as merely jokes, just a sort of fun. And this is the problem behind. We all know the reality. We all know about the male dominated society. This dominance, irrespective of the region and culture, is an axiomatic fact. And I believe, such jokes are created to picturize the dignity of the woman in the eyes of the society. Hundreds of thousands of jokes are made questioning the integrity of women every day and are spread across. Women are made feel inferior. They let them go because they’re women.
Once I had objected to one such joke. And people took it on me. According to them, I was overreacting. Maybe I was. Because the objection I raised is not the usual one. People just let such jokes go away. Since I reacted, they found it rude.
I, then only, googled this word. And I was shocked seeing the real explanation. It is a manipulated fact. Here’s the reality. EROTOMANIA is found both in men and women and according to some surveys (not sure about the legitimacy) it was more common in women. But that definitely doesn’t mean it exists only in women. And for those talking about technicality, adding word 'only' to the context in this picture is not of greater importance. Because the creator has manipulated it.
What if one says, the creator was an a*****e. A man, I mean! He created a stereotype surreptitiously and tried to sell it. As one can anticipate in the present scenario, he succeeded in doing it.
I received the above picture in my class group. It was sent by a boy whom I perceived to be a good decent guy. Maybe he is or maybe he’s not. I asked him not to spread such false and manipulated and prejudiced statements. He retaliated not by saying sorry for this rather he indulged into an argument. When I’m harsh, I’m very harsh. On one side, when I was defending myself and asking him to feel his guilt. Umm... actually I didn’t want him to say sorry or something. I just wanted that he deletes it and do not repeat this. What hurt me more was nobody talked in my favor. Rather some girls had laughed on that before I said a word. Most of them were neutral. And their neutrality meant something to me. They disavowed. I thought as if I’m doing wrong in telling him that he was wrong. I should not have done that in first place. After so many harsh and rude arguments and so many requests from my side, he deleted it. Well, that was no better to me. Because I knew I couldn’t change his mentality of making mockery of women by spreading rumors. He deleted it out of pressure. I deleted his number and didn’t text him back. What else I could have done!
What I got from defending myself with legitimate reasons was just an image of fighting with people for no reasons. Yes! the next day, I told a girl for not taking my name in the class when it isn't actually required. I was showing my disappointment. She took leverage of what happened the last day. She formed my negative image. After a little argument, I just said sorry to her. Obviously, I didn't mean it. I had to finish the matter. I said sorry because I thought it's being mature.
Jokes!! They are a menace which are not considered to be so. I’ve been part of many webinars on gender equality and justice lately. What’s common in them is they talk equality in society, in workplace, at homes and everywhere else. They talk about the judgement made on a woman hugging a man. They even talk about how staring at a maternity belly is a sign of disrespect. However, I’ve never heard a word from them talking about the inequality, the prejudice, the injustice that takes place in the uncommonly noticed form of jokes. People take leverage on women. And women do not turn them down. Rather they take accept it as fate. My accidental objection to a joke made me look like cynical. When a woman already is facing so many injustices, she finds it easier to let go things like this. Maybe she doesn’t. But my incident may make a woman feel like this. Well, I’ve not lost it yet. I’ll keep on doing the right things as I did.
For me, these jokes are sarcasms maybe!!! As I say, ‘This is just a joke!’
P.S.: Refrain from sharing gender biased jokes. They hurt to the core. Always have and show chivalry to women!
P.P.S.: I’ve no grudges with the people whom I’ve specifically talked about. Me quoting them here is just a way of expression.
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